Let's Learn About: Asexuality

In February 2025, Margaret hosted a webinar entitled, "Asexuality: or, What's Wrong With Sex?"

If you are curious about sexuality and gender topics, this one covers a lot. Whether you are asexual or not, this webinar explored asexuality as a spectrum in a way intended to be beneficial to everyone. This webinar was carefully designed to be inclusive to affirming and non-affirming alike. There's a free workbook included that's designed to help you get everything possible out of it.
 
Why talk about Asexuality?
Asexual individuals are, like most people, told their whole lives that the arousal cycle only works one way - you see, you feel attraction, which leads to arousal and ultimately connection and sex. But then you are growing up, waiting for puberty to hit. Everyone around you starts having experiences common to puberty - and you do too, but not all of them. There are things that just seem off, different. Maybe you try to talk about them but it doesn’t seem to lead to any clarity for you.
 
As an asexual individual grows and they and their peers become sexually "aware" or even active - there are always extreme, mystifying differences. It is crazy making and can lead you to believe there is something wrong with you. Not only are you unable to fit the expectations of your sexual partner, it can often affect how you show up in your friendships and lead to isolation and confusion and even a loss of friendships.Because of the lack of understanding about what sexuality even is, how it works, and the many ways sexuality can show up in a person, people may enter marriages not understanding this part of themselves leading to extreme relational distress and putting a lot of stress on the marriage.
 
Asexuality makes up about 1% of the population. That’s one in every hundred people. That means you know people who are asexual. But do you know what asexuality is?
 
Why watch this webinar
First, a huge gift you can give to the asexual individuals in your life is the ability to see them without them having to educate you. Asexuality is a beautiful, necessary expression of human sexuality. Being able to see the beauty and gift in it will enrich your life!
 
Secondly, sexuality is complex. In order to understand complex things you have to study them in all of their variations and expressions in order to understand what it is. For example, lets say you don’t know what a dog is and I show you a picture of one. You might then think a bear is a dog or that a Pomeranian isn’t one—because even though you can say the first picture is a dog, you still don’t understand what a dog is. I would argue that until you understand asexuality, you cannot understand sexuality. So, if you are curious about sexuality at all, if you are hoping to discover more about how your own sexuality works and what it is then this conversation is for you!
 
Who is this webinar for?
I believe that our understanding of sexuality as a society is woefully inadequate and there is a distinct lack of education and conversation, especially in religious spaces, about sexuality.
 
Since we are all sexual beings, often in sexual relationships, I believe it behooves us to start talking about it! The more conversations we have about sex, the better ALL of us will be.